Case History One: Several months ago I was asked by a friend to do a mock interview of their son who wanted to make his way in the wine business world. Having almost finished his degree in business and with prior work experience in wine sales and restaurants, it was interesting to me to find out how he would do in this mock interview. He handled himself very professionally in the contrived setting, and came across well in the interview. After the interview I debriefed him on how he did and also gave him my take on possible options for him in the wine industry. Since he and I had met at a restaurant and only consumed water during the interview, I wanted to make sure the restaurant made a little money off of my table that afternoon, so I encouraged him to order something to eat and drink. I ordered a light appetizer, and a glass of wine. Did he? No. Smart man.
When I put together my notes from this meeting for his parents, I mentioned his abstaining from drinking during our meeting, and gave him big kudos for that. I think drinking alcohol can be fraught with meaning in a business setting, and for a young graduate, something to stay away from at all costs. Oh, I know I'm a wine industry recruiter, but an interview is an interview, and the same rules apply.
Case Histories Two and Three: On the flip side of this, this weekend I had several meetings with both job seekers and clients who were discussing projects. At one of the interviews I ordered a beer but my interviewee did not--although we were dining at a brewery. I thought this showed a lot of restraint on her part, and of course caused me to start to worry about how I was being perceived! At one of my project meetings my client brought along one of their wines to try--so of course I had a glass of this wine. But I did not have a second glass, nor did he.
What to Do: When meeting with a prospective employer, keep your demeanor completely professional. Now, we do want to find out a little about you when we meet, so don't worry about talking a bit about your personal life. And when meeting at a restaurant for an interview, try to brush up on your basic etiquette so you don't embarrass yourself by drinking out of the ice bucket. And try to match your dining companion's pace and conversation style.
Pace Yourself: Yes, pace yourself my friend! This can be the hardest thing to do at a business lunch--but I'm not talking about pacing your drinking. Try to see what kind of meal this is going to be. When you first arrive you'll get the menu and maybe hear about the dining specials. I think this is a great opportunity to gauge how much food the other person may be eating. If they mention that the salad at this place is a meal in itself, they may be planning to just have a salad for lunch--so stay away from ordering an appetizer, a salad, a soup, an entree and a dessert. You'll have plate after plate coming at you, and your guest and others waiting for you to eat. The meeting is a time to show off you talents for the job, not how much you can eat. I also try to let my companion order first, so I can see if they will be having a few courses or sticking with only an entree. If they order a first course, I try to too. I don't want them to be desperately trying to finish their soup before the next course comes, while carrying on a conversation about what we are really there to explore. So, try to keep your order in sync with theirs. Order Wisely: Ok, now that you've thought about the amount of food you should order, try to take into account how the food you want to eat will interfere with your meeting. A few weeks ago I ordered a wonderful summer stew at a meeting, and was very worried when it had shell-on crustaceans and whole cobs of corn to wrestle with. It was even better when my corn cob sailed through the air after I was trying to get the kernels off using a knife and fork. While I don't like to get too picky with what I am ordering, it may have been better to make sure this seafood stew would be meeting friendly. Years ago I worked at a company that forbid us employees from ordering anything that required eating it with our hands. I have followed this policy loosely in all my ordering--staying away from big juicy burgers and shying away from french fries. But I do slip occasionally and order something that requires manual manipulation.
Why You are There: Alright, so now that you got all the ordering taken care of, keep your focus on the meeting--not the food. You want to enjoy your meal--but if you have something that is so-so--keep your opinion to yourself and carry on with the conversation. If there is truly something wrong with your meal, decide what you need to do--if you must send it back--do it, nicely. But if it was a little underwhelming, eat a little and be happy you won't get caught with your mouth full of food very often. You want to be talking a lot, so don't worry if you don't eat much. Just have your plates cleared when your companion's are, and be thrilled to get the time to highlight your qualifications.
Coffee Anyone?: And if the meeting is going well and your host wants a cup of coffee, by all means have one too. This time can sometimes be a nice chance to talk without plates of food between you, and often is a time to see what the next steps are in the interview process and learn how you are being perceived by the--hopefully future--employer.
